For the last 30 years they have seen bad women use a rigged court system to screw men and ruin father/child relationships.
Why, knowing this, would they continue entering into a social contract with virtually no benefits to them?
A mentally weak man is one who sits back and acts like the whole world is full of random events happening to him. This refers to anyone who thinks that divorce courts should have anything to do with the decisions about whether to get married or not.
A stupid man is one who thinks he's in control of everything.
A wise man is one who realizes that his marriage success is largely in his own hands. He knows by choosing the right person to marry and by managing the relationship well, he will have a long and successful partnership to bolster him throughout his life.
An under-educated man is a man who thinks he's wise to get married but actually hasn't chosen well and doesn't know how to manage relationships. This is where roughly half of men (and women) fall, leading to many divorces because they've chosen their partners poorly and/or don't know how to sustain a relationship over long periods of time.
Unfortunately you tell it as it is. Men always get shortchanged when it comes to divorces, and with couples sticking around for less and less, divorces are on the rise. Our judicial system believes the woman is more important than the man in a family relationship, and he always gets screwed in the end because of it. It's not that the children don't need their father, it's just the way the court sees it, and that's just the way it is. Woman take advantage of this, not only in divorce why men end good relationshipssituations, but also false abuse allegations that they'll use to stupefy the court system and land a guy in jail over something he didn't do. It's a flawed system, and it needs a serious, serious update.
This, among with other reasons, is why I don't support marriage. It never works out in the end, and it only opens the gateway for more major problems in the future. People like to tell you that there's someone out there for everyone, but once the walls finally close in and two people are stuck together, they naturally want to split overtime and it can only get worse after that moment. Even if love really existed, it will only diminish with time. Life's no country song.
But what makes this so painful is regardless of all this, we all need someone to love us. We all try to fix ourselves with a partner and start a family, even with next to no effort creating an effective relationship in the end. I'd like to be proven wrong about this, but the only real point in marriage is to have children and keep the species going, as well as bring people's incomes together and pay for the cost of living. Love and affection has little to do with it anymore.
Actually they are not likely to end up in divorce court on first marriages, that's an urban myth.
If you ask my husband, he'll tell you he's spoiled rotten. Marriage is a huge benefit to him.
I have never divorced him, left him, taken his money, screwed with his personal and family relationships.
Too many people just happen to rush into marriage without making sure first that they are choosing the right person. Too many people are ill-equipped for marriage and cwhy men end good relationshipsan't withstand the rigors of teamwork.
Marriage takes communication, respect, kindness, compassion, a willingness to compromise, a strong work ethic, and selflessness.
People today are selfish and want instant gratification. They couldn't work for anything if their lives depended on it. They quit and give up too easily. They're spoiled.
Probably because most men aren't thinking so negatively the way you are since you've probably been burned. You know, there is such a thing as great marriages. Don't blame the system, don't blame women. Blame your choices and learn from them.
Your answer is in the first sentence of your post: "...they have seen BAD women use..." . They have also seen GOOD women NOT abuse the system and stay faithful to their man for life. They are marrying the ones they believe to be the good ones.
Last I heard the divorce rate is around 50% so you have the same chance your marriage will last too!
IF the lottery were a 50/50 chance would you buy a ticket?
You must be a glass half empty kind of guy!
Gee you don't have a negative attitude to you. Just to let you know, not all men get the shaft, a lot of woman do also.
I say it takes 2 to tango.. It's not all about the bad women really? men are bad as well.. Marriage is a awesome thing blessed to be married to the man that made all my dreams come true..
A lot of women are optimistic and look for the good in all people.When you make them mad they(we) tend to make sure you suffer.
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