because after seven years, i still haven't figured it out and im apparently doing something wrong! he acts miserable with me and has been talking to a woman for the past six months behind my back through texts. is it possible for a man to be completely satisfied with one woman? or is it a loosing battle? so how to keep a man happy?
If you are with the RIGHT one, this is NOT a question. Apparently you are not with the right guy as clearly neither of you are focused on or satisfied with each other.
I see trust issues, communication and a miriad of "red flags" waving there. If in all this time you STILL don't have it" together", I suspect that it's over. But ultimately,the two of you will need to decide for yourself if the other is worth the commitment. So far it does not seem to be of much benefit, but then there are "good "marriages and "bad" ones. Good luck. Peace.
There is an age old proverb - What you don't get in home, you seek it elsewhere. Marriage is not just sex. Marriage means giving/taking warmth, solace, emotional balance and of course the lovely sex. Talking to a female doesn't mean he is having any affair. There was never a battle, so there is neither winning or losing.
Now let's get down to ground reality. Are you giving him enough sex? Does he ask for any type of perversion. Men usually like to have sex whenever they get a hard-on. May be you are not ready or may be you refuse him.
Do you both sit and talk dime to a dozen on any silly subject, have fun and cut jokes on each other?
Do you ask and get massage from him or give it to him? I don't mean sexual massage, but massage on back, legs, etc?
It is difficult to list solutions to your query. come to ledot smale at yahu dotcom to discuss this issue in detail. I may be presenting too many questions there to understand the problem.
Best wishes,
Le
All I can tell you is what I have heard.
Men have two stories... One they tell women and one they truely believe.
We truely believe we want what our fathers had. They were the head of the household, the leader
of the family. They were looked up to and respected. They felt secure.
The women's movement changed all that. Our wives don't look to us as leaders. They behave as
if marriage is a competitwhat men wantion. They do not show us respect anymore. And they don't honor us.
In short, we don't know where we fit in anymore. We instinctually are leaders that have been upsurped.
We are not domineering tyrants. But there was an order to the world that made sense years ago.
An order for men and women that made sense years ago and it worked! We never had the
complicated relationship problems we have today. What has changed you ask? Men's and women's
roles in a relationship. Until we recognize it, the problems will continue.
Your man is likely seeking respect and attention from this lady, he doesn't receive anymore.
Its called the 7 year itch. He is getting bored, restless and wants something new and exciting.
You should not lose yourself trying to please him.
My ex husband did the same thing. He never cheated until the 7 year thing came. He acted distant and gained new female friends.
You should focus on doing you. You can't help him through this. This is the part of marriage that separates the men from the little boys. He might not pass this hump.
Get a new hairstyle buy some new clothes and go out with your friends. Save some money on the side too. Its gonna be a bumpy road.
Simple answer..................................…
Long answer is TALK TO EACH OTHER, sex,money,laughter,children,family,work,… etc etc, all of these are hard enough at the best of times but if one or all are really bothering somebody and they dont talk about it with somebody and action hopefully taken to resolve something then problems arise and the pressure cooker begins to boil.
If you two are both miserable then sit down and talk about why and if it cannot be resolved then put something into place no matter how harsh it might seem to put something in place where you are not both miserable, dont get me wrong i know its bloody hard work but life is to be enjoyed!, remember that.
Good luck anyway.
I'll start with the obvious, sex. From there, a woman who isn't nasty, who doesn't intentionally try to belittle her husbands (even in a joking manner), who isn't always complaining, who can never be content with what she has and yes...the occassional "thanks" for doing tasks that needed done (yes it is our house, car etc. to but at heart we are little kids that need / wawhat men wantnt affirmation that we did a good job). The last thing is either time / space to do some of the things we enjoy doing or better yet..a wife that will participate / show interest in the things that we like.
My dear friend,I know that by nature women are submissive,but there should be a limit.Once in a while use your brain find out your self respect and self esteem and confront your husband with your problems and ask explanation.He is taking you as granted,considers you as his property.He has forgotten that you are a human being. But yes you are right.Men hate monogamy.They love to flirt with other women.They are wired like that.It is in their genes.
I really dont think men really know what they want they seem to act like little teen agers most of the time there wife seems to give them every thing, good looks house cleaning, ect. good sex, good listener, looking good, but they still want to show other women they want them, they like to play stupid games all the time they wont grow up, and the wife gets to stand and watch, its not fair that men get to flirt with other women but the wife better not, not fair, because if we decide to act like our husband we get blamed of being called a whore not fair uh.
yes i can be but i always try and keep it pure there is always one person in a realtionship that goes sour and looses what ever it is. i try and keep it fresh as with my girlfriend but she makes it hard for me
its all about paying enough attention and love and care as long as you always have these things
i always buy my girlfriend a little present to say that im always thinking of her or leaving notes and stuff just doing sweet stuff all the time, this is what i find people do they leave these things out, i try to keep my relationship the same all the way
No one can keep another person happy. Happiness is a choice, and happiness comes from within, since it is a feeling. While it is true that we can do or give things to others, it is up to the individual how they choose to feel.
Who wanted to get married to begin with? You? or him? Did he initiate the marriage conversation or did you? Did he just go along with your plan? That could be the problem.
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